Everyone has one and you wonder why you don't. She goes here and there with hers, and you're stuck in your living room chilling with your parents all weekend.
Having a boyfriend was common when I was in high school and it's still common today. I wanted one. My friends wanted one. Some of my friends even had one. But why? Why did we feel the need to have a boyfriend? Looking back now it just seems so...stupid.
I wish I could go back in time and tell my ninth grade self that boys aren't worth the time at that age and to stay away from dating them. They will literally promise you the earth, the moon and the stars, and while they may have all the best intentions, it most likely won't work out. Why? Because you'll believe them. You'll believe everything they say, even if they say "I love you," on the 4th date because it's natural. It's natural to want companionship and to want to be loved but the problem comes when you realize they don't. The problem comes when you're sitting on your bed late at night, crying because he broke up with you, only after you decided to give your heart, your emotions and your love away. Let's be honest, for you, it was love.
Let's look at the basics. They probably don't have a car, and if they do they just got it. They still live at home (duh).They don't have enough money to take you out to Olive Garden (unless it's the boy who gets an allowance) much less purchase the entire galaxy (like they oh-so-heartedly promised). I don't know about you, but having his mommy drop you off at the movies together is too awkward to label "fun".
Take a look around you. Whether you're in the cafeteria, in a classroom or in the hallway you'll see boys, but not the kind of boys you want. They goof off, tell jokes, act dorky and maybe even smell, but you know what? Why should they care? They have all the time in the world after high school to devote to someone they really care about. So do you.
You should be having fun with your friends. You don't have to worry about what you look like in the morning because the truth of the matter is, you'll never see those kids after you get your diploma. You don't have to cry countless tears because Steven likes Alyssa but Alyssa said she liked Tyler but Tyler likes you and you just want Steven. You don't have to waste precious kisses, embraces, time, or in the worst cases, your precious purity.
When you get married, you're more than likely going to understand this more. When you look at your husband you're gonna wonder and want to know who's he's dated, when he dated them, how long he dated them for and what they did when they dated. But he's going to wonder the same thing about you. You're going to wish you hadn't dated that goofball in ninth grade or tenth, or whatever grade because all of those kisses, hugs, tears didn't mean a thing. They mean nothing compared to what they mean now, with your spouse. People will tell you all the time not to worry about what your spouse did before you blah blah blah, but it's human nature to want to know. It really is. Not always the best thing, but it happens.
Serious dating in high school is a waste of time because people rarely ever marry the person they invested their time and emotions in. Kisses that are given cannot be taken back, no matter how hard you wish. And sadly, neither can innocence.
Have fun. Be young. Save the serious stuff for later.
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