1. Wear His Uniform-Now ladies. There have been times I've cuddled up in my husband's blouse just to feel close to him when he was away. I could smell that "just got in from work" scent and immediately be transported to his arms. But I was in the comfort of my own home. No one was around to see. I didn't take a picture and post it on the internet (I have a brain). Only him and I knew. I have seen loads and loads of "boudoir" sessions of women daunting their man's uniforms....why? I have yet to understand the entire concept. Yes, your man may like it (God knows why..) But the rest of the world does not want to see it and when you get them taken "professionally" by a "photographer" who has a page and posts the photos PUBLICLY the world sees. Furthermore, I find it highly disrespectful to wear a uniform so many have fought for, gave it all for, and paid the ultimate price for in such a tasteless and skimpy manner. Please don't wear it out in public either. People are caught all the time trying to wear the uniform in public to get discounts and recognition for something they haven't accomplished and it's called "stolen valor". How would it be any different for you? What do you need recognition for? You have not earned the uniform.
2. Throw Out HIS Rank- Whether it's to belittle, get what you want or just to be a downright bitch, it isn't your rank to throw around. It's your significant other's. Please save yourself the embarrassment. Even though it's what you're aiming for, it doesn't get you any respect, it gets you the complete opposite. (This may also be a good time to add that there is no such thing as the 'silent ranks'. You have no rank. Period).
3. Use His Service As Your Identity- Honestly, the word "Milso" doesn't bother me. It's a word to generalize a certain group of people. Military significant other-that's kind of what you are. But it's not the ONLY thing that describes you. You can be a mother, a sister, a wife, a teacher, a nurse, an artist, and entrepreneur, all honorable things. When you introduce yourself to someone you don't say "I'm married to Steve, he's in the Army." You talk about yourself. "I'm ___, I do this this and this." Your life does not revolve around what your husband/boyfriend does. Though his career choices do affect your life in many ways, you are your own person. Be proud of that.
4. Post Personal Issues to Public Social Media- I can't tell you how many times I've seen military significant others ask for advice about such personal stuff on public pages!!! I totally understand wanting advice/encouragement when a deployment comes around, but putting things out there that should be taken care of in private by a professional is not smart. Other military significant others will most likely only be able to offer you encouragement but will all point you in the same direction-see a professional-get help from someone who has knowledge/experience on the certain subject.
5, Use the Flag as Lingerie- This sort of goes in the same category as number 1, but I feel like this needs to be said. People have fought and died for that flag. People still to this day fight and die for that flag. It is not a piece of apparel and certainly not a piece of lingerie. You don't look sexy draped in the U.S. flag in the nude, you look like you have no respect for the flag whatsoever (not to mention no taste). Do us all a favor and put some clothes on or put on a nice bra and panties and send the photos to your man PRIVATELY. I have never seen a male military spouse pose in the nude draped in the U.S. flag, why should you?
6. Engage in Infidelity- This is a "duh" but some people really just don't know when to keep it in their pants or keep their legs closed. I'm sure some of you have heard of the term "jodie" or "jody" (people spell it differently) and this name refers to the person a military significant other will cheat with. Obviously, this name didn't come about by just a few women cheating on their man. There had to have been a lot. If you can't be faithful, leave. Bottom line. And if you're deleting messages from your phone or Facebook so your significant other can't see, you're already there. I don't care how long it's been since you've seen your man...it's called "don't be a slut." Respect your man and what he's doing. Wait for him in all aspects. Mind, body, heart should all be committed to him and to him only. This should be a given.
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